Dear Ann Coulter,
I am not a political blogger. I do not engage in political discussions on twitter, Facebook or any other platform. No one has any clue whether I’m a republican or a democrat, which way I will be voting this fall or my stance on Iraq.
But I am a supporter of kindness, of treating people with respect and dignity and of never degrading one population to uplift another.
Last night I actually logged off twitter to avoid all the political banter but I woke up this morning to the firestorm of outrage your ignorant words created. You brought out the ugliness in so many, some supporting you who I will no longer be able to look at the same but most in disbelief that you would use such words to promote your public persona.
The saddest part is this, the group of people you so terribly insulted? Most would never say an ill word back. My daughter is one in that group and not only would she not retaliate against your statement but she would be the first person to give you a hug if she saw you upset by the backlash you have created. If you were so honored to have her friendship she would be upset that you are upset, she would defend you without question and she would show you unprejudiced kindness.
If only you were lucky enough to know her.
I have the honor of being her mom and the responsibility to stick up for her when she cannot stick up for herself or is unaware that she has been so wronged. And I have to say I feel bad for you, you’ve never experienced the amazingness that is a child like mine, you’ve never watched the inspiration that is a Special Olympics competition or felt the pride I feel when my daughter accomplishes something that most take for granted.
Because if you did? Maybe a little bit of her beauty would have stopped the ugliness that came out of your mouth.
Sincerely,
One Lucky Mom
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I'm Jessica, 30-something mom to five, four in my arms and one in my heart.
It made me sick reading her tweet. She is such a hateful woman. It’s always a shame when someone with that much air time is so mind numbingly insensitive and outright hurtful. Your daughter sounds amazing and it gives me hope that there are still good people in this world raising incredible children.
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She uses this word so often now that I think there must be more going on for her around it. I’m glad you spoke up.
PS. I’m pretty sure I know what side of the aisle you are, who you’ll vote for and how you feel about Iraq, but I won’t tell my somewhere-between-knowing-and-guessing.
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Ignorance on this level is nauseating. Your daughter is lucky to have a Mom like you; you’re amazing and classy and your post is spot on. Shame it even needed to be addressed though…
Wow, I did’t see this last night since I also turned off all external distractions and just watched the debates. You are a kinder, classier and more forgiving person than I am. I think that Ann Coulter is the absolute worst kind of person. She does not deserve your kindness. She is a hag who deserves to grow old alone with only the annoying sound of her own horrible voice keeping her company while she spouts hatred and evil.
I think your post was beautifully written and I applaud you for taking a stand against Ann.
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Yeah, what she said.
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I logged off to avoid it all, too. And am just now seeing this. She’s disgusting.
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She is and just showed her ignorance by her choice of words.
Thank you Jessica for this!!! Absolutely perfect, Diane
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I don’t even know what to say. This is so disrespectful and hurtful.
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Jessica, you said this both honestly and graciously. I hope that people will read your words and understand that exchanging one cruel remark for another does not bring about change. It increases hatred. By speaking with kindness, even to those who have not, especially to those who have not, you reach past ideologies and into their hearts, which is where true understanding occurs.
Thank you.
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Said with a grace an composure that many people would have lost in this situation. It’s hard to believe there are people who think this is okay.
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So well-said and also full of joy and kindness – sadly, not words people say often about what Ann says and writes. Her loss for sure.
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Well done, Jessica.
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She’s full of hate. You’re full of love. Enough said.
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This. And love wins, always.
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Jessica, you are classy and wonderful. Great post.
#IthinkAnnCoulterIsAnAsshat
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You said it! Good work, One Lucky Mom.
“Maybe a little bit of her beauty would have stopped the ugliness that came out of your mouth.” Exactly! My daughter’s teacher was talking to the other kids on her class, and they commented that she was the only one amongst them who had never said or done something mean. It makes this slur particularly painful to me.
Completely agree, she is attacking an innocent population who are more kind that the rest of the world.
Beautifully written my friend xo
Thank you so much for sharing this. I hardly got through half of it before I had to stop to wipe away the tears that were blurring my vision. People are so careless with words, and sometimes they don’t realize the weight those words carry. And sometimes they do, and that is what is really disturbing. Thank you for sticking up, not only for your daughter, but for all kids who have been slighted without realizing it. You’re voice is just beautiful, and you always seem able to put into words the mess of feelings that I can’t seem to articulate.
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So awful. That woman…..well, I am outraged and I don’t have a special needs child. Just knowing all you lovely people who do has shown me how to empathize.
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You wrote about this so eloquently. Perhaps, you could teach Ann a thing or two in her ignorance. Ann is so full of words and yet she has no clue on how to be gracious. Thank you for remembering to be in this crazy world of ours.
Bless you and your daughter ~She sounds amazing!
Horrified by her comments. Horrified. And I don’t get horrified very often. I applaud you, Jessica. Your words are well thought out, well said and wonderful. I don’t know that I could be as kind.
Bless you!
Teri
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Beautifully said! It’s so hard to believe that this word is still be thrown about so casually. Makes me ill to think of the beautiful souls it’s truly hurting.
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Well done, Jess.
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Grace. Pure grace.
Blessings to you today.
Your kind words hit hard. Which is perfect.
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Ann Coulter has never been know for her ability to speak eloquently.Just ignore her. We all know her feelings are never spoken with delicate lymerics. So sorry for all those who were offended and hurt.Being bipolar and having to listen to others digs in the media about a sickness most people have no real knowledge about, I understand your hurt. Not all bipolar people are ax murdering nut jobs, but you would never know it watching the writers of certain tv shows and news coverage of crimes if a bipolar person is involved.Even friends and family sometimes make those judgements. I am sure inside she meant one thing, but used a very poor equation to explain her point. She is fairly callous,as is a tremendous amount of the media, and I doubt she will change.
You are one lucky mom and we are lucky to be able to read your words and watch you stand up for your daughter when she couldn’t for herself understand the ugliness of the words used.
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Dear Jessica,
I really hope Ann Coulter reads your letter. And I really hope she THINKS about it, and learns from it.
Strong work.
Signed,
Another annoyed mama
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Yes. This is not a political issues. It is an issue of humanity and of respect. Ann Coulter has yet to show she has any sense of either.
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I’m disgusted. Seriously. How immature! I hate what politics makes people into.
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My daughter has picked this word up from school, and I HATE it. I’m working so hard to teacher that it is wrong, and she is working to overcome saying it. To have someone this influential make such a heartless statement is infuriating and sad.
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You, my friend, are my new hero. XO
Amazing response. Thank you for sharing it. I hope she reads it and takes it to heart. I know I have.
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Coulter’s tweet irked the hell out of me. What an idiot! So irresponsible. So disappointing. Thank you for writing this. I hope she reads it and is remorseful.
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The woman’s 50, still squeezes into black cocktail dresses, drinks like a fish, cusses like a sailor, dated Bob Guccione Jr for a long time, and plays to the most extreme minds for a few bucks. She’s disgusting.
People who used that word are either uneducated or mean-spirited aka dead inside. Ann Coulter has two degrees, She’s a zombie under that transluscent skin.
You’re right. It’s not about politics. It’s about decency.
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yes. yes. yes. speak for your fabulous daughter. speak against hate and speak of your daughter’s love. proud of you mama.
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You are amazing. This is amazing. I love how you respectfully made your point. By the way, you are one lucky momma, and she’s one lucky girl.
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Bravo, girl. Just bravo.
{So very proud to call you a friend!}
xo
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Oh my! I’m not on twitter often so I had no idea this even happened. I have no words – I can’t believe people still use these words. Your daughter is beautiful inside and out – Ann Coulter can’t claim either.
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I’ve always thought she was beyond awful…and this proves it.
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I am horrified by her comment. And I am humbled by your response. You should really submit this post somewhere. Huffpo?
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Well said Jessica! I am proud of you!
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She is evil. Evil.
You and Ashlyn are light.
This letter proves it. I’m with you.
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I am speechless after reading her insensitive tweet. And the fact that she has used this word previously is just testament to how much of a hateful woman she is. I don’t want to give her any more of my time in thinking about her but I will share this, a beautiful response to her by John Franklin Stephens. You may have already seen this, but I figured it couldn’t hurt. http://specialolympicsblog.wordpress.com/2012/10/23/an-open-letter-to-ann-coulter/
You are such a wonderful and beautiful mommy, Jessica, to a wonderful and beautiful little girl. XOXO
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One thing I thank her for – her comment did a lot of good for Obama (although I’m really sorry if you’re a Romney supporter and I’m invading your space with that comment).
I have written and rewritten my comment to this post several times. Jake would have been a special needs child and I always envisioned that he would be the sweetest little downs syndrome baby. I always thought I would be so lucky to be his mom. I am so saddened that there are people like Ann Coulter in the world. Hugs to you.
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she constantly says such hateful things and I can’t tell if she truly believes them or if she knows the controversy will drive more book sales…and I think she’s single handedly driving more Republicans over to the other side with her hate speech…people don’t want to be associated with her at all….
Did you hear her retort? She finally gave one, something along the lines of moron and stupid being in the same ballpark at retard and if we stop saying the R word we have to ban others too…
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Wonderful post!! thank you for your open letter to Ann Coulter! you are so right, and she is so wrong.
I live in Europe and whenever I hear about her, it’s about a racist comment she’s made, or some statement totally devoid of humanity… She doesn’t want to see that diversity is beautiful and precious, and should be embraced with love, support and admiration.
You have a lovely blog!
Well said Jessica.
Way to go, Mama Bear. You could have used so many other words to retaliate, but I think you did it in the spirit of your sweet daughter. You are a role model and leader for so many moms. It is an enormous responsibility, but even greater privilege to be the parent of a special needs child. I would really, really like to shove her broom back up her skinny rump.
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