Dear Susie Lou*,
I think it is time we go our separate ways.
We’ve been seeing each other for years and sadly, things just aren’t the same. Actually they are the same, the same as they were 10 weeks ago and 10 weeks before that. I have pleaded with you to lighten things up but you just give me the same old routine.
Strangely, you change your own ways every time I walk in the door while I tend to resemble my high school graduation picture.
Our conversations are nice enough but I like to come up for air between topics and a better head massage wouldn’t hurt either. Oh and your latest look? It scares me. I’m sure it is of such high fashion that I can’t reach it, but I am a less-is-more, go-big-and-you-should-stay-home kind of girl.
Even though you are centrally located and surrounded by windows you can count on me to avoid you at all costs. This has made it difficult to dine, shop and take my children to school but well worth the sacrifice. And seeing one of your coworkers? I. Would. Never.
A brazilian wax sounds more pleasant than a conversation over why I’m leaving, so please don’t call.
My next cut, highlight and arch are on the other side of town.
We are looking at homes two cities over just in case this one does not work out.
Terrified of Hairdresser Confrontation*
so no one can find her and tell her about this letter to protect the innocent
Have you ever been afraid to break up with a hairdresser/ babysitter/ housecleaner/ etc.?
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Breaking up with a hairdresser is hard, but one thing I’ve learned is never see a girl whose hair is a hot mess!
OMG, it is the worst thing ever to break up with a hairdresser. I actually really LOVED the guy I was seeing but getting to him was so inconvenient and his hours were wonky. But I did go back once (after seeing someone in between) and he totally called me out on it! I felt like I was cheating on him, LOL!!
But I love this letter 🙂
Annie, mama dweeb says
LOL!! Oh this was soooo funny!! Thanks for the giggle 🙂
I have totally been a “hairdresser whore.” And I feel kinda bad. 🙂
You get around too ;)? Maybe that is what I need to do, put my hair first and just move from chair to chair without caring :).
Aly ~ Cooking In Stilettos says
Breaking up with a hairdresser is worse than breaking up with a significant other – and then you have to find a new one and it’s touch and go. I cheated on one, had to go to two others due to scheduling and finally went back to him to have him cut off the hair and rectify the damage. I hope I don’t have to leave him again because finding a new hairdresser is worse than finding a new doctor, imo.
nan @ LBDDiaries says
Oh my gosh, yes! My latest breakup should never have happened. The former-former one is in a town 45 minutes away and I was able to just walk away with no fear of bumping into him. He had gotten so accustomed to me, he didn’t hear me anymore and just did “his” thing. I went back to the prior hairstylist, obviously forgetting she never really listened and did her own thing, too. After this last hair cut disaster I walked away permanently. Now I pray to find someone else, anywhere! LOVED this letter. Isn’t it funny how we allow people like that to hold us hostage?
This is probably the best breakup letter, even though i have a feeling in my case, it might be my hair dresser wanting to break up from me….as I don’t call, write or visit as often as I should!
Sorta Southern Single Mom says
Happy SITS Day! I believe I cam for a visit when you were featured over at Things I Can’t Say.
I tend to stick with a hairdresser until I move and I’ve never had a housecleaner, so I’m out there. The girl who cut my hair in my hometown did so from the time I was 9 until I moved away at 25 and then I went back when I was home for a brief time again!
Hi there. Just popped in from SITS and wanted to say happy SITS Day! I totally understand wanting to break up with someone like a hairdresser. It’s so incredibly hard because they know so much about you! Best of luck with that!
Luckily I haven’t read many break up letters in my life, but if I had, this would be the best WITHOUT a doubt. Good luck!
And yes, I have SO been in your position. I’m still stuck.
Fabulous disguise! Such a hard thing to breakup with a hairdresser. I recently went to a college friend and although she did a good job – I like somewhere else better. Makes it hard since we’re now FB friends. Maybe I should just send her this letter?
Robin @ Farewell, Stranger says
Yep! I wanted to change my hairstylist but had been going to him, literally, since I was little. I just wanted something different. I finally did and it was fine.
Same with my financial advisor. She was a client of my mom’s and I really wanted to leave. Finally did that too. Whew!
Love your disguise 🙂
Breaking up with a hairdresser is scary. How anyone could EVER go to their hairdresser’s coworker is beyond me. THEY COULD SEE YOU.
I know! Shell commented that she does it. I am now scared to meet her in person.
I don’t break up, I just ignore and avoid until they get the message. I absolutely hate confrontation! I have even set up appointments out of guilt and then just not shown up. I’m horrible.
This is, like reason #13 that I’m glad to have a penis.
I’ve only known the name of one of my people who have cut my hair, and that was because she was Aimie, which seemed to have too many letter “i”‘s in it, and because she had bigger biceps than I did. Since I’ve gone with the “scorched earth” policy, I now do my own hair, which means I never even have to wonder how long the wait might be at one of the “walk in” places.
I am literally laughing out loud at this comment. This is like reason #1,353,458,907 why men have it easier than women.
What a funny and great way to write about this!!! In fact I thought it was for Write on Edge for a “relationship” you knew was doomed from the start. LOL.
I have broken up with many many stylists. When I moved and was too lazy to drive there anymore, when they became too expensive, when I had to make an appt (I do better when I can just show up) and every time I have been scared poopless about that confrontation. Like you I hid a lot. 😉
Good luck with the new girl…can’t wait to see the new look!!!!
Do I ever know…only I must own a pair of steel balls because I still go to the salon to get my eyebrows waxed…not that woman can wax. I can’t give her up.
It does make for awkward moments but I usually book my appointments on the ex’s day off.
I’m sneaky like that 😉
I drive 2 hours to see my hair stylist because I love her so much. If I ever have to break up with her I will be heartbroken.
Courtney @ The Mommy Matters says
Yep. Been there. Had to break up with my long time hairdresser because she apparently didn’t know that 2 inches off the bottom isn’t the same as 6 inches. Totally get it. Here’s hoping you find someone better!
Sarcasm Goddess says
I’ve been trying to break up with my dentist for two years. It’s not going well.
I had to break up with my hairdresser at the beginning of this year. What made it worse? She was a family friend. I have avoided her ever since. I’m not a fan of confrontation either.
What a GREAt post! I had considered it with my current hair dresser. The reason why? I wasn’t crazy about the color she was using. I thought it was too dark. It turns out she didn’t know because I never said anything. She’s awesome and the color is JUST RIGHT!
….my mother, however, NEEDS to break up with her hair dresser…she’s awful!
Thanks for a fun read!
Rach (DonutsMama) says
I hate that too. Luckily my old hairdresser decided to go back to school and quit. But I wouldn’t know how to have this conversation either. I’m sorry I’m no help!
Kate F. says
Hehehe… I am lucky… I have a great hairdresser… Or I’d be movin’ too (Confrontation… No. NOT my forte.) 🙂
YES YES YES!!!! The one place I am terrified to speak my mind. I just stopped going to mine about three years ago and now am always so afraid of what will happen if I ever run into her!
I recently had to break up with my hair dresser. I was so scared.
Christine @ Quasi Agitato says
I have moved on from one hairdresser to another but I don’t think they really notice my absence. But I have always been so glad I can’t afford a nanny or housecleaner because I would have NO IDEA how to handle that relationship. Ugh.
Argh! My hairdresser is on maternity leave, and I’m never going back. Isn’t that awful? Especially awful because about five or six of my friends all go there. And I might be facebook friends with her. Oh geez, I’m hyperventilating just thinking about it.
Now you have me wishing mine would just get pregnant so I can take the easy way out :).
Yes! It is scary! Luckily we move a lot and I don’t get my hair done nearly enough so I don’t get into this problem too much.
You should do your hair like mine and then you wouldn’t have this problem. Good luck!
Amanda Austin says
Yes…our old daycare worker…who was also ourneighbor!!! But luckily, she broke up with us. HA! Great post.
Amy Sullivan says
Oh, this made me giggle. My mom and I were just having this conversation about her hairdresser. . .
julie gardner says
OH MY GOSH I LOVE YOU!
This is hilarious and so very true for me.
I went to the same hairstylist for ten years. Ten. And every time, I’d say, “I’d like to try something new. What would look good on me? What’s new, hot, hip? What do you recommend?”
She’d smile and nod and then say, “Okay then. So the same thing as last time?!?”
I swear she’d practically hop with excitement over doing the identical cut and color for a decade.
“But your hair is so pretty…..” she’d say when I’d again suggest I wanted a change.
Still. I lied when I stopped going to her because I’m THAT afraid of confrontation. I told her a friend from high school was pressuring me to use her and I couldn’t say no.
Pathetic. Yes. I hate lying. But I told myself it was to save her feelings.
My mom said, “You’re not helping her by keeping the REAL reason a secret. She needs to know.”
Yeah. Maybe. But she’s not gonna hear it from me.
I completely agree with your approach. I actually may borrow your exact excuse.
Michael Ann says
Oh, this is always so hard!! Good for you though. It does take guts to make the move!
I always just kind of disappear too. But I am not very faithful to stylists. I’ll go one place for a year or so, then decide I need a new atmosphere and break up!
You get around way more than I do ;).
Great break up letter!
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See this is why I do my own hair. I could never handle the break-up.
You do your own? I could never. Brings back memories of the days of Sun-In and orange hair.
Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell says
Yes! I’ve wanted another hairdresser in the same salon, but I didn’t know how to do that so I sadly had to leave the entire salon. It’s tough, and I’m about to break up with mine too. 🙁
I feel like this every time I switch providers of anything. Haidressers, cell phone company, doctor. Basically anyone I use on a regular basis 😛
Devan @ Accustomed Chaos says
i am so weird about ‘hurting peoples feelings’ so i would avoid as well…easier that way 🙂
I hate hurting peoples feelings too! Ugh.
Great break up letter! I would never be brave enough for a confrontation either. And I just hate trying to find a stylist. I’m still on the hunt for a good one.
I broke up with my hairdresser.
I had to, she kept dying my hair weird colours and cutting it the way she cut her own hair.
I didn’t tell her to her face though, I just quit going.
I know how you feel. We wouldn’t hire our neighbor’s lawn service business just because if it ever went bad we couldn’t break it off. I’m also scared to tell my sister-in-law that I don’t want to go to her house for Thanksgiving. Confrontation scares me. Can you write her a nice little letter for me?
Sure, I will write her a letter, especially since I don\’t know her. If there is a chance we will ever cross paths though I can\’t do it :).
I hate having to break up with a hairdresser- it’s why I was SO NERVOUS to start going to my sil up in PA. B/c I figured once I started going to her, I couldn’t get out of it. But then she ended up doing a great job.
Then we moved.
I found someone who was okay and I went to her for a while… and then there was a day when I HAD to get in and she couldn’t take me, so I went to another girl in the same salon. Who made my hair look better with a different technique that was faster AND cheaper. So, I started going to her all the time.
And avoid eye contact with the other girl.
Oh that is tough, I would not be able to look at the other girl either. Actually I don\’t think I could do it, you are stronger than I am!
I remember, your ped dr, too…I mean, with the pacy issue, right?
Just walk away, girl.
Apparently I have confrontation issues :).
Kristin @ What She Said says
YES! I’ve always wanted to write a similar post but could never quite figure out the angle to take with it – I love yours!
I have commitment issues when it comes to staying with a hairdresser longterm – my longest relationship has been three years – but I really hate The Break-Up also. And then trying to find a new one? Ugh. It’s no less awkward and uncomfortable than actual dating.
I’ve been seeing my current stylist for about six months now and I love her, but I’m also trying to remind myself that we’re currently in the honeymoon period. Still, this relationship seems to have what past ones have lacked – communication. I feel like I can be direct with her and she listens to me. So, maybe this is it. Maybe I’ve finally found The One.
Oh I hope you have found the one. I go through the honeymoon period too. I always think we will be together forever and then, things change.
JDaniel4's Mom says
I had to break up with my dental hygienist and stayed with the same dentist. It was tough.
Oh that would be tough, not sure I could do that, I would have to switch dentists!
Galit Breen says
Hee! Yes, why does that seem so very scary?
Love this, girl, and that disguise? Perfection. 🙂
Fireman mask, works every time ;).
Not a Perfect Mom says
ha! one of my best friends since I was 10 owns her own salon and I wouldn’t trust anyone else with my hair…though right now in my awkward growing out stage I look like a 90’s reject…but even she knew it and offered up that at least my color rocked…which it does…
anyway…I like big…I may or may not have used the Big Sexy Hair products before cutting it all off…
oh, and I’m bad with confrontation…I’d just never go back or call….
that was long winded…sorry, must be all the coffee this morning
Dana K says
Ugh. I hate finding a new hair stylist. I always just stop going, too. I don’t want them to try & convince me to let them try something new that I might like better. Good luck!
Love this! And such a cute way to write about it!
My heart would be beating fast – good luck!