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A Beautiful Mess

By Jessica

I wrote this a while back for What to Expect but found myself in need of reading it today, maybe a few of you do too…

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Balancing the plastic tiara that dangles from my head, I turn for a clip-on princess earring. My three year-old fastens it to the top of my ear, grinning at her progress.

I can only imagine what I look like right now. No time to even change out of my pajamas, showering has become an unattainable dream today. I brushed my teeth, I think, and a steady flow of coffee has kept my eyes open through breakfast and lunch and snack.

My kitchen sink is towering with dishes and there is nothing thawed for dinner.

Cries and protests replaced what should have been naptime and my lap has not been empty for a moment.

My checkbook lays open on the counter, a streak of ink across a half-written check. A pleading toddler pushed my arm as I tried to pay a few bills.

Toys topple over my legs as I sit in defeat. I cannot accomplish anything today so we will spend the rest of daylight dressing as princesses and connecting trains, pushing dump trucks and toppling blocks.

Trying to stop a to-do list from scrolling through my brain, I concentrate on the knobby knees and clumsy hands at my feet. The last of today’s sun peaks through the window. I watch it shine on a tuft of blonde that managed to escape my little boy’s pirate hat.

My daughter tilts my head. A second dangling earring is ready for application. As I lean towards her, sloppy toddler kisses meet my cheek and I cradle my youngest in return. Eyes beaming with pride, my daughter steps back to admire her creation.

“You are a beautiful, beautiful princess, Mommy.”

Suddenly I am content, my house a castle of thriving children and beautiful messes.

I have accomplished everything worth doing today.

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  1. Robin | Farewell, Stranger says

    February 9, 2013 at 1:18 pm

    Oh, those days are so hard. And that perspective is so hard to find, but I’m so glad you did.

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  2. Alexandra says

    February 13, 2012 at 12:50 am

    It’s so easy to forget to be part of the moments, to create the moments: that’s where memories come from.

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  3. ioven says

    February 12, 2012 at 8:35 am

    I like material like this. This is a fantastic post and I genuinely enjoyed reading it. You’ve got an original style that makes your tips stand out from other writers.

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  4. Ariana Lemarr says

    February 12, 2012 at 4:49 am

    The photograph reflects perfect moment of mother and daughter. I didn’t know much about clip-on earrings. I guess, the tiara seems a nice accessory for the head. I love the lines: “You are a beautiful, beautiful princess, Mommy.” Thanks for the interesting post.

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  5. Teresa (Embracing the Spectrum) says

    February 11, 2012 at 9:34 am

    Those are the moments we live for…

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  6. Tonya says

    February 10, 2012 at 6:31 pm

    They say a picture is worth a thousand words. They are right.

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  7. Shanon says

    February 10, 2012 at 6:25 pm

    I love the pics. The one created from your words and the one created from your camera. Thanks for this!
    Shanon

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  8. Leighann says

    February 10, 2012 at 2:23 pm

    Yes!
    This is a great reminder that through the busy schedules, loads of laundry, piles of dishes, and never enough money there is the ones we do it for.
    Thank you Jessica.

    Reply
  9. Miss Marina Star says

    February 10, 2012 at 1:09 pm

    I love this and would never have seen it had you not re-posted. So, thank you. It was just what I needed.

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  10. Charlotte says

    February 10, 2012 at 12:05 pm

    Such a sweet post, Jessica. I’ve never read this one before but am happy you shared it again. And that photograph is too beautiful for words.

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  11. Stacey says

    February 10, 2012 at 10:39 am

    Thank you. I needed that today.

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  12. Camille says

    February 10, 2012 at 10:33 am

    That’s a beautiful story and what a gorgeous photo. There’s nothing more pleasing than getting a sincere compliment from your own child.

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  13. story says

    February 10, 2012 at 9:09 am

    This is so beautiful and such a good reminder. It is so hard to stay in the moment and be content. So. Hard. Thank you for this.

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  14. Lady Jennie says

    February 10, 2012 at 8:24 am

    It’s beautiful and not messy at all. 🙂

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  15. Shannon from 'mynewfavoriteday' says

    February 9, 2012 at 11:37 pm

    Such a beautiful post…it’s a lovely reminder that sometimes what we are “meant to accomplish” is just seeing the smiles of our precious ones and watching them light up with joy that we are spending time with them. The picture is gorgeous and the purity in that moment is inspiration in itself!

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  16. John says

    February 9, 2012 at 1:52 pm

    Those words would fix just about any day.

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  17. Rosy Stinson says

    February 9, 2012 at 9:49 am

    You’ve such a lovely daughter. And as your lovely daughter says “you’re a beautiful, beautiful princess.”
    I loved the photograph and the article even more.

    Thanks for sharing.

    -Rosy

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  18. Kimberly says

    February 9, 2012 at 8:31 am

    Swoon.
    Makes me want a girl 😉
    Chunky gives me sticky kisses and fart pies.
    Yes.
    Fart. Pies.

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  19. Mrs. Jen B says

    February 9, 2012 at 6:10 am

    Oh, so sweet. 🙂

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  20. The Anecdotal Baby says

    February 9, 2012 at 12:37 am

    Wow! Beautifully captured. I had exactly this day today, well, close. I’m realizing just how much messes are unimportant and living is truly the only important. Thanks for the reminder!

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  21. Lanie says

    February 8, 2012 at 9:46 pm

    Thank you for sharing – you have reminded me to enjoy the “rock star hair” my twins try to create and forget the laundry ( which will be there long after they are asleep).

    Sending you hugs and good thoughts today and always. Take care.

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  22. Jackie says

    February 8, 2012 at 9:27 pm

    I love that picture! It’s such a sweet moment.

    Your kids won’t remember the mes, that you couldn’t take a shower, or that dinner wasn’t perfect. What they will remember is that you are always there for them.

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  23. Traci says

    February 8, 2012 at 8:59 pm

    It’s so great when kids put things into perspective. Never forget that you are her princess.

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  24. Kisha says

    February 8, 2012 at 8:17 pm

    It all goes by so fast, dishes can wait! Lovely post.

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  25. Amy says

    February 8, 2012 at 7:04 pm

    When we do the girls’ hair after bath, we let them look in the mirror and tell them they look beautiful. They’ve recently started coming up to both hubby and me, mess with our hair, and say, “We’re making you beautiful!” It really is the cutest thing, to watch two little girls play with your husband’s hair on the floor “making him beautiful”, especially when said husband does not ever ever ever like anybody touching his hair.

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  26. Jennifer says

    February 8, 2012 at 6:07 pm

    Everything you wrote shows that you are the most perfect mom for your kiddos. They are so lucky to have you. XO

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    • Jessica says

      February 8, 2012 at 6:14 pm

      Aww, thank you so much.

      Reply
  27. Emmy says

    February 8, 2012 at 4:35 pm

    Okay try again- tried to comment but it totally showed up under the wrong post! Sorry :(. But as I said before, I love love this! Yes, you were doing what truly matters.

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  28. Jen Has A Pen says

    February 8, 2012 at 3:17 pm

    This is such an important reminder- even for me. Good for you, mom.

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  29. Catwoman says

    February 8, 2012 at 1:27 pm

    Such a sweet photo! Both of you look so adorable…beautiful!

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  30. Life As Wife says

    February 8, 2012 at 1:25 pm

    I needed this today! Thanks for reminding me that my mess is beautiful!

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  31. natalie says

    February 8, 2012 at 1:20 pm

    No matter what my to-do list says, that is ALWAYS the most important priority on my list (now I just need to remember that…)

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  32. Jennifer says

    February 8, 2012 at 11:30 am

    Some days we just have to do what’s most important. 🙂

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  33. Brittany says

    February 8, 2012 at 10:28 am

    You are a princess and yes, thank you for the reminder! Sometimes it is hard to appreciate our precious gifts in the middle of all the chaos of small children.

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  34. angela says

    February 8, 2012 at 9:43 am

    I loved it then and loved it now. It’s so applicable every day, and I have a habit of forgetting every once in a while.

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  35. Nan says

    February 8, 2012 at 9:40 am

    Its helpful to be able to go back and read posts and find wisdom from your own words, I wish you a gentle day, take a deep breath and I’m lifting you up friend. Love, Nan xxxooo

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    • Jessica says

      February 8, 2012 at 9:43 am

      Oh Nan, so good to hear from you. I think of you all the time. Hope you are doing well.

      Reply
  36. Barbara says

    February 8, 2012 at 8:59 am

    Beautiful post, and that picture shows just pure joy and love!

    Reply
  37. Shell says

    February 8, 2012 at 8:41 am

    You did what was most important!

    That to-do list will wait!

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  38. Galit Breen says

    February 8, 2012 at 8:14 am

    Stunning, perfect.

    xo

    Reply
  39. Farrah says

    February 8, 2012 at 8:00 am

    Such a sweet picture. I hope you have a good day!!

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  40. Mirjam says

    February 8, 2012 at 7:59 am

    I did needed to read that, you have no idea!
    Thank you.

    Reply
  41. jenn says

    February 8, 2012 at 7:51 am

    Beautiful 🙂 I love the picture, pure joy right there!

    Reply

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