Last year, surrounded by people, doing the gazillionth must-do-for-the-holidays thing on our list, I was all alone.
I stood there watching and smiling and doing that going through the motions thing that I hate being good at. If it had been any colder I would have been carving my own little igloo to hide in, making it a cozy place to stay while I dwelled on the fact I had this un-mended heart that was still trying to beat despite a tear right through the center.
To be honest, as the holidays approach, I’m starting to wish for igloo-building temperatures again but I’m vowing to fight it. I reached out to the fabulous Mary of the Mama Mary Show and author of Dead Dads Club and we have joined forces, contacted a few other bloggers who have experienced grief through loss in other forms and came up with a social media campaign called #hugsfortheholidays. Consider it a virtual hug for those of us who need it and an igloo-melting party for me, because I want to enjoy my days, not hide from them. And I don’t really like the cold.
We want to make sure no one is grieving alone this holiday season so we invite you to share your story with us. On Wednesday, December 19th, we will have multiple link-ups on the sites below, where you can comment and/or link up according to the type of loss with which you are dealing.
You can link up anything you would like to share about your lost love one: a link to a Facebook photo/post, a blog post about a particular memory, a Pinterest pin sharing how you cope, whatever you would like others to read or see. The link ups will be displayed as follows:
If you have had a miscarriage, stillbirth or loss of an infant link here: fourplusanangel.com
If you have lost your mom link here: sandiegomomma.com
Your dad link here: mamamaryshow.com
Your sibling link here: myinnerchick.com
A child link here: aninchofgray.blogspot.
A friend here: kimtracyprince.com
We have also created a Pinterest board called Hugs for the Holidays. If you have a specific link you’d like shared on the board between now and December 19th please include it in the comments below and feel free to follow it so we can all start supporting each other.
Please remember to visit a few other blog posts on this special day to help spread the love around to others. We will keep the link ups open through December so that everyone has a chance to participate. Our goal is that no one feels like they are suffering alone this holiday season.
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Beverly Diehl says
Found you through My Inner Chick, but hope you will share this: http://www.milbetweenus.com/2012/12/5-ways-to-survive-horrible-holidays.html on the Pinterest board.
Thanks for doing this, I am sharing for others in need of this.
Love and healing to us all (including me).
My Inner Chick says
will you let me know how the format will go tomorrow? Thanks <3
What a brilliant idea! I am in – and will figure it out before next week. Thanks so much. xoxo
My Inner Chick says
Xx Glad to be part of this.
Lisa Gibson says
That is an amazing thing that you are doing. I am so glad that you shared with us. Thank you so much.
The Insomniac's Dream says
This is absolutely amazing. I have been struggling with myself because I write a humor blog, and I so, so wanted to write a serious blog about the son I lost. The day that you are doing this is the anniversary of his death, the very day I would publish if I wrote our story. I’m going to write it.
Oh my gosh, that gave me goosebumps, I’m glad we can help you honor his memory.
What a lovely idea! Huge hugs.
I think this is a great idea! Where do we post if we’ve lost a spouse? I’d be willing to sponsor the link up portion if you don’t have someone already. What a great way to remember our loved ones. Thank you so much for this!
We actually have someone who we have asked but isn’t confirmed. If she is unable I will contact you. Thanks so much for volunteering.
Ginger Kay says
What a wonderful idea!
JD @ Honest Mom says
This is great. I will link up about my dad. Thanks, Jessica!
This is a beautiful thing 🙂 The difference you (and the other contributors) will make is amazing.
What a beautiful thing! And yes- holidays can always be a more difficult time.
Oh I love this oh so very much xoxo
I love it too, am I allowed to say that about my own inititative :)? Truly though, I hope that we are able to reach a lot of people and help everyone to feel less alone this year.
What an amazing thing you are doing!